This is the sex-oriented version of Imatchup.com, so the site design is identical. Only difference here is that you can sign up as a man, woman, couple (hetero, lesbian or gay), or a group. Some unique facets include the ability to rate people's appearance by their photos, and to view videos uploaded by other members. If you want to view X-rated photos of other members, you have to give the site your credit card information for age verification purposes.
In filling out my profile, I noticed that there was no Pagan option in "religion," just “other.” A neat feature: You can include your most-used IM program and username in your profile. There's also a section where you can list your fantasies.
Folks can search by sex, age, local area, new, photo-only, and type of relationship desired. You can also browse by gender and sexual orientation, and then U.S. state, Canadian province, or U.S. Commonwealths.
You can do a fair amount with a basic (free) membership here. You can send emails, but you can't read the responses. You also aren't allowed to include any alternate contact information (email addresses, URLs) in the emails you send, but people get around that by referring to Yahoo as "the Y" and other sneaky ways.
You can rate members’ photos, which is fun, but man, people are brutal with their ratings. And you can upload a video—PG, R, or X-rated! You have to be a paid member to watch videos, though.
Gold members can search according to various extra criteria, including photo rating, eye/hair color, religion, and more. And gold members' profiles come before basic members in search results. Platinum members’ emails can be read by everyone, and they move to the top of all search lists. Once you get a gold or platinum membership, you can also see what sort of memberships the other members have (so you know if they have a basic membership, that's why they're not responding to your emails). Also, you get to see all the naughty pics automatically.
Hint: If after signing up you don’t want to receive a LOT of automatic emails, go into Email Options and uncheck some boxes.
I heard from S.N.B., a 37-year-old "lipstick lesbian" in TX. She joined because she was sent a email saying something about hot single females, so she went on to see what it was all about. My God, I can't believe those spams really work on some people! She'd never been on a dating site before. She's only been a member for about two weeks, but already, she says, "I have met a very nice, interesting, very fine girl from Houston, like myself. We have really hit it off, and talk all the time." I hope she'll let me know how it goes! "My favorite things about the site are the hot pics that can be posted, including the private pic that can only be shown who you choose to show." Her biggest complaint: "There is no IM on here. A lot of times my friend is on here, and I can't even talk to her except by sending a message, which sometimes she doesnt get to read for a while." She has already recommended this to others. What advice does she have? "Put pics up; that is for sure."
I also spoke to S.R., a 26-year-old bi-curious woman in TX. She joined "Because between work and school, I really don't have the time for a relationship." She found "some freaks, but some really great people." She likes the black book and "block" features, and has recommended the site to several friends. Her advice is "just have fun."
Next, I heard from W.D.O., a 34-year-old hetero male in KS, who has been a member since the site started: about two years so far. He joined the site to “find someone to have fun with, in terms of what the site is about.”
W.D.O. found the site easy to use, and was pleased with the features and extras, but has had problems weeding out the genuine members from the fakes. “A large majority of new members basically say the same exact thing in terms of who they are and what they are looking for. Those I deem the fakes. Some that I’ve written to over the past year write back only to give me a bunch of crap like they liked my profile, but I know that they yet never looked at it. They give me an email address to get back with them, but then never reply when writing to that. If they do reply, 95 percent of the time their email contains a link to a pay website.”
Even those folks who aren’t professionals he feels lack courtesy. He talks to people on a regular basis and has met two people from the site and had a good time. But “most don’t even read your mail to find out if you are what they are looking for. To me, if you describe some aspect of what you seek and someone shows an interest because they possess it, then common courtesy should come to surface. How else will you/they know if the person fits? I’ve also had members reply back telling me that I’m not their type, even when what they wrote fits me. Their reasons vary from me not looking like Brad Pitt, having a nice body but a not-so-attractive face, I dress as if I’m stuck in the ‘80s, etc. The site is becoming like any other adult natured site: too many fakes and not-so-courteous people.”
W.D.O. gave the site high star ratings in all categories, so overall he seems pleased with it. The lesson here I think is to maintain your skepticism: if a woman on a sex-oriented dating site seems too good to be true, she probably is.
If you've used this site and want to tell me about it, email me!
